With all the dysfunction
in the world today, particularly with sex and relationships, I feel
inclined to describe the antidote; that is, Christian marriage. Its no
secret that our culture has seen a rise in divorce, loose sex, single
parents, and an overall drop in marriage. The reason is our culture's
lack of faith in Christian marriage.
What makes Christian marriage different than what we might call "secular marriage"? A Christian believes in the authority of God, and marriage was given to man by God. Because of that, God has set certain parameters for the covenant of marriage. So in essence, the only real marriage is a Christian marriage, because only Christians have faith in the One that defined marriage from the beginning. Marriage is like a recipe with exact proportions. Follow the recipe and everything is fine; but start to make changes to the recipe, then there will be problems. Holding onto that dogma, that marriage is defined and governed by God, is the first necessary step to a fruitful and lasting marriage. Following His recipe is the next step.
Rather than go through every point, I will focus on those points that really differ with our culture. Its quite obvious that God designed marriage for a man and a woman, so that doesn't need to be said. Its equally obvious that God hates divorce. So I won't spend time on that. The one place that marriage and our culture really differ is in the area of gender roles. In marriage a man and his wife both have roles, but our culture has mutilated the idea of gender roles.
Feminism is a mortal enemy to any committed romantic relationship. Marriage is a committed romantic relationship, so Feminism is a mortal enemy to marriage. Because of feminism, a generation of Americans decided to enter these "partnership" marriages, where there is no authority and the pretense of "equality" permeates. So they will equally decide everything; the man is not in charge and the woman is not in charge. There's very few things that are any more foolish than this. If there is no authority in the marriage, there is no authority in the house, and there will be strife in the house. Its absurd to think that a man and wife will agree on everything, or that they could compromise on everything. Because of this, authority is required. That's one of the ingredients in a Christian marriage: authority. The man is the head of the wife. The wife is to submit to the man.
Responsibility is required of the man. Our current culture doesn't expect boys to become men, or men to take responsibility. Nevermind how dangerous this is for a society, a marriage cannot survive unless the man takes responsibility and takes charge. He must be a man. With a somewhat cliche statement, he's got to put the pants on.
Now the ironic thing about feminism is that it really does more to harm the well-being of women. Its no good for society as a whole, but it especially hurts women. I said that feminism is a mortal enemy of marriage. I meant it. Because of feminism, marriages fail. Because marriages fail, men decide not to get married. We all know that young men are choosing not to get married more and more. Why do you think that is? It is a result of feminism, because feminism turns marriage into a hapless pit. What man would want to enter it? And so, men do not get married. Men increasingly satisfy their sexual desires outside of marriage. What does this mean for women? Desperation. If men have a strong desire for sex, women have a 10X stronger desire for committed male companionship (what we used to call marriage). Men can get their sex in a feminist culture; that is no problem. But women will find it impossible to get their committed relationships.
The antidote is Christian marriage. It requires that people submit to God. It requires that people follow His recipe for marriage. Only then will people enjoy the fruit of successful marriages. Only then will children have a mother and father. Only then will people have healthy sex, and we won't see the spread of STDs. Only then will the two part at death rather than divorce court. God gave us the recipe. When people follow the recipe, marriage is really good. But when people mess with the recipe, marriage turns into a disaster. Do not mess with the recipe.
What makes Christian marriage different than what we might call "secular marriage"? A Christian believes in the authority of God, and marriage was given to man by God. Because of that, God has set certain parameters for the covenant of marriage. So in essence, the only real marriage is a Christian marriage, because only Christians have faith in the One that defined marriage from the beginning. Marriage is like a recipe with exact proportions. Follow the recipe and everything is fine; but start to make changes to the recipe, then there will be problems. Holding onto that dogma, that marriage is defined and governed by God, is the first necessary step to a fruitful and lasting marriage. Following His recipe is the next step.
Rather than go through every point, I will focus on those points that really differ with our culture. Its quite obvious that God designed marriage for a man and a woman, so that doesn't need to be said. Its equally obvious that God hates divorce. So I won't spend time on that. The one place that marriage and our culture really differ is in the area of gender roles. In marriage a man and his wife both have roles, but our culture has mutilated the idea of gender roles.
Feminism is a mortal enemy to any committed romantic relationship. Marriage is a committed romantic relationship, so Feminism is a mortal enemy to marriage. Because of feminism, a generation of Americans decided to enter these "partnership" marriages, where there is no authority and the pretense of "equality" permeates. So they will equally decide everything; the man is not in charge and the woman is not in charge. There's very few things that are any more foolish than this. If there is no authority in the marriage, there is no authority in the house, and there will be strife in the house. Its absurd to think that a man and wife will agree on everything, or that they could compromise on everything. Because of this, authority is required. That's one of the ingredients in a Christian marriage: authority. The man is the head of the wife. The wife is to submit to the man.
Responsibility is required of the man. Our current culture doesn't expect boys to become men, or men to take responsibility. Nevermind how dangerous this is for a society, a marriage cannot survive unless the man takes responsibility and takes charge. He must be a man. With a somewhat cliche statement, he's got to put the pants on.
Now the ironic thing about feminism is that it really does more to harm the well-being of women. Its no good for society as a whole, but it especially hurts women. I said that feminism is a mortal enemy of marriage. I meant it. Because of feminism, marriages fail. Because marriages fail, men decide not to get married. We all know that young men are choosing not to get married more and more. Why do you think that is? It is a result of feminism, because feminism turns marriage into a hapless pit. What man would want to enter it? And so, men do not get married. Men increasingly satisfy their sexual desires outside of marriage. What does this mean for women? Desperation. If men have a strong desire for sex, women have a 10X stronger desire for committed male companionship (what we used to call marriage). Men can get their sex in a feminist culture; that is no problem. But women will find it impossible to get their committed relationships.
The antidote is Christian marriage. It requires that people submit to God. It requires that people follow His recipe for marriage. Only then will people enjoy the fruit of successful marriages. Only then will children have a mother and father. Only then will people have healthy sex, and we won't see the spread of STDs. Only then will the two part at death rather than divorce court. God gave us the recipe. When people follow the recipe, marriage is really good. But when people mess with the recipe, marriage turns into a disaster. Do not mess with the recipe.
I prefer a godly marriage over a Christian marriage. Too many people seek to commit to a christian marriage without the understanding of what it is to be godly. A big difference in my opinion.
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